Fernando Lanzer
2 min readJan 12, 2025

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We need to understand that all psychopaths have a deep down need to be caught and punished.

They are deeply troubled individuals (it's a personality disorder, something more difficult to treat than a mental illness) who spend life fighting against barriers and breaking them, because deep down they long to find a barrier that cannot be broken; they want to find real limits, because they grew up without them (or breaking them).

There is a side of Donald Trump that did not want to become President: not once, and not twice. It would have been more comfortable to remain as "the guy who is raging against the machine," the guy who is a "victim of the system."

Why?

Because playing the victim is actually more powerful than winning. As a victim, you blame everybody else except yourself; you make everyone else feel guilty, while you escape responsibility and guilt. You get to justify your anger and make it righteous anger to exact revenge upon those who did you wrong.

This is why many people keep trying to play the victim. Not only in politics, but in life.

It's a childish attitude (children try to get their way by throwing tantrums), but it's very popular and often effective.

The adults in the room don't play the victim. They bear the burden of taking responsibility and doing something constructive to build a better world for themselves and for others.

Meanwhile, the childish and the psychopaths deep down have an unconscious desire to find a limit. Having a limit will give them a bearing, something stable to make them feel safe and have peace of mind. Psychopaths do suffer (although they never admit it) because they are seeking these elusive limits that would provide them with less anxiety.

The problem with the MAGA crowd and Trump is that they won... and once in power, THEY will be the ones in charge and responsible for making things work. This scares the shit out of them.

They are already inventing all kinds of reasons to become the victims again and blame everybody else for failing to "fix everything". That's because they get off on complaining, as victims, and not really on fixing anything.

Deep down, they are hoping that something could happen at the last minute to avoid Trump being inaugurated again: this would give them good reason to remain in the roles of victims and complaining against "the system".

The challenge for the adults in the room will be to help these kids grow up. Parenting is not easy. Parenting 70 million Trump voters is much more difficult.

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Fernando Lanzer
Fernando Lanzer

Written by Fernando Lanzer

Consultant on Leadership Development, Managing Across Cultures, Leading Change. Author of “Take Off Your Glasses.”

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